Inner Child Healing
Inner Child Healing can be customised with a combination of your preferred services:
You may have heard the term ‘Inner Child Healing’ and thought it was just another bit of ‘psycho-babble’ – even though the term has been around for many years now. We each have our own history and we have all been influenced by our environment, events and the significant people around us. Our inner child has stored those memories, and their impact upon us. Some of these memories may be traumatic and have impacted your relationships in ways you would like to be different.
What is an ‘inner child’?
Your Inner Child is the echo of the child you once were.
Up to the age of seven, we are profoundly affected by our experiences.
We will have made decisions at a sub-conscious level about how we should be and what to do in order to be seen as OK, allowing us to stay around and to survive in our families. Our later experiences will have reinforced these beliefs and formed our own ‘script’ for how our life ‘should’ be. We carry these immature scripts and decisions with us into adulthood – when they run our lives more than 90% of the time. It therefore makes sense we should revisit the experiences of the child we once were, find out what our own script says about our life and the unfolding drama we have been re-creating and repeating. We may try to silence these deeper longings with alcohol or drugs, by promiscuity, gambling, over-spending, over-eating, work-a-holism, self-harming and other ways of avoiding the real and deeper needs we have. Needs which we haven’t allowed ourselves to become fully aware of, or to find a way to have sufficiently met.
Examples of childhood trauma may include:
- Abandonment (your caregivers leaving you alone for long periods of time without a babysitter)
- Being a child of separation or divorce
- Being around a caregiver who smokes, gambles, over-works, is promiscuous, emotionally eats, over-spends, drinks alcohol, self-harms or uses any form of narcotics/medication that changes their state
- Being hit or excessively smacked by your parents/guardians
- Car accidents, or other spontaneous traumatic physical events
- Denigration of your personality, traits, looks or cultural beliefs
- Destruction of personal belongings
- Emotional neglect, i.e. not being nurtured, encouraged, supported or listened to
- Experiencing molestation, shown pornography, or any type of sexual abuse from a family member or any other person
- Frequent moves to new locations
- Given inappropriate or burdensome responsibilities (such as caring for your parents or siblings)
- Having an emotionally unavailable parent or caregiver who withholds affection
- Humiliation
- Narcissistic parent or caregiver
- Not being fed, clothed or provided a safe place to live
- Physical punishment by kicking, shaking, biting, burning, hair pulling, pinching, scratching or “washing out the mouth” with soap
- Somebody putting your parent or caregiver down or criticising their efforts
- Verbally attacked by use of name calling, bullying or insults
Signs that your Inner Child is wounded:
- A general lack of trust in yourself and others
- A lack of genuine friends
- Appearing ‘false’ and wearing ‘masks’
- Being a rebel, hoarder, bully, perennial victim or super-achiever
- Being fiercely competitive and a poor loser
- Commitment problems in relationships
- Criminal behaviour
- Dependencies and addictions
- Eating disorders
- Excessive lying
- Fear or rebellion to authority figures
- Feeling ‘overly-responsible’ for others
- Identity problems
- Low self-esteem
- Manipulating or being passive-aggressive
- Mood and emotional imbalances
- Obsessive and needy behaviour
- Poor body-image
- Problems with boundaries being too rigid or too weak
- Self-harming
- Sexual and intimacy difficulties
How do I heal my inner child?
Inner child work is a vital component of doing the inner work because it reconnects us with a wounded element of ourselves; the child within. When we reconnect with this fragmented part of ourselves, we can begin to discover the root of many of our fears, phobias, insecurities and sabotaging life patterns. This is where the true magic and healing happens. During sessions, together we frequently invite and heal aspects of the wounded inner child so you feel calm, assertive and happy in your life once more.
Feel free to get in touch if you would like to speak with me
Your health and well-being are better when your Relationships are in balance.
Book in your complimentary 15 minute Discovery Call with me and see if we can work together.
View your options for Coaching with me here…
Individual Sessions
My Relationship
with Me
3 sessions
Ignite the Spark
Rescue your Relationship
6 week program
Ignite the Spark
Revitalize your Relationship
See all reviews here
